Romantic Rejection: How to Cope with Rejection in a Relationship

Rejection is always disappointing, no matter how you slice it. Whether you’re dismissed at work after submitting a proposal, or you’ve been rejected by someone you have romantic feelings for, rejection shows up often in our lives. Yet, despite how normal it is and how commonly it occurs, the pain of rejection can last and be difficult to manage.

A few common types of rejection include:

• Social rejection can refer to bullying from one individual to alienation from an entire social group.

• Familial rejection could refer to neglect, abandonment, withholding of affection, and, in some cases, abuse.

• Rejection in a relationship could refer to a breakup, and it can also refer to withholding affection or treating a partner like a casual acquaintance.

• Romantic rejection can occur when a person asks another on a date but is turned down.

Just as there are various contexts where rejection may occur, several mental health consequences can follow.

Two particularly challenging types of rejection that one might seek therapy to overcome the sting and emotional distress

include rejection in a relationship and romantic rejection. Any form of rejection can be painful but being rejected by someone you love or trust can significantly impact your self-confidence and self-worth.

Rejection in a romantic relationship can lead to overwhelming feelings such as grief that can last for weeks and sometimes years. Yet even those who aren’t already in a relationship but who desire one from a friend can experience the pain of rejection if their romantic advances are refused.

Being put “in the friend zone” is a term many use today to describe this, as well as instances where a person seeks intimacy with someone who only wants a friendship.

In cases where you struggle to cope with rejection - whatever the reason or type - a therapist can help you effectively manage your emotions and distress. It’s also important to know that therapy is available to help you cope with all contexts of rejection — not only when being turned down by potential romantic partners but also in situations like applying for a job or college.